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Here's to
You
By James W.
Dolan
Nobody has a good word to say
about drinking. Sure I know it's dangerous, can lead to
abuse, and generates a lot of trouble. It's the cause of
many personal and social problems. It probably has caused
more pain than pleasure.
It has been banned and damned
through the ages yet the practice persists. There must be
something good about it otherwise those various brews and
beverages that have the power to bedevil us would not have
survived.
I would never encourage anyone who
doesn't drink or shouldn't drink to touch the stuff. Like
all the other pleasures in life, its benefits can be
overrated and its risks overlooked.
But there is something to be said
for a cold beer on a warm summer afternoon or a glass of
wine with supper and a good whiskey over ice. Even some of
those multicolored "foo-foo" drinks with umbrellas, fruit
juice and the like can hit the spot. I doubt blenders ever
would have been invented were it not for these friendly
concoctions
We drink expecting it will affect
us - hopefully for the better. Presiding over drunk driving
cases for many years, I was always amused when the accused
testified the drinks didn't affect him. That was the
standard response. I used to ask myself: "Then why
bother?"
Let's be honest! People drink for
the affect, not to quench their thirst. For that you can use
water. It probably works better. Alcohol affects people in
different ways and therein lies the dilemma. When the
affects are adverse, it may be too late. The damage has been
done.
When the affect is mild and
benign, drinking can be a pleasurable and even beneficial
experience. When it is not - watch out! By any realistic
measure the risks of drinking are greater than the rewards.
The sensible thing is to avoid it but human beings have a
track record of rejecting the sensible for the pleasurable,
often to our great disappointment.
I enjoy a drink but fear alcohol.
I do not like to feel out of control and know that in excess
it can produce that effect. For me, the use of alcohol
involves reconciling those two conflicting emotions. It
involves remaining sufficiently aware to assess the affect
it is having upon me and being able to stop. At that point
fear becomes the motivating force.
Like fire, when properly used,
alcohol can provide a warm glow and a feeling of
contentment. It can provide oil for the tongue and a ready
smile for the lips that enliven a gathering of the clan. It
can ease the disappointments and frustrations of the day and
help put things in perspective.
I prefer Irish whiskey. It is the
right combination of color and taste with a dash of whatever
it is that makes Ireland special. Somewhere in that amber
glow is the joy and sorrow of my ancestors. It provides a
connection.
Those spirited lozenges, maligned
and praised through the ages, may be a product of our fallen
nature. The insidious potion has built and destroyed, damned
and saved, and in all its many forms confused us. It
generated and then overcame a constitutional amendment. It
made some men rich and others poor. It inspired some and
brought despair to others.
It's one activity where quantity
adversely affects the quality of the experience. In
moderation, it is one of life's simple pleasures.
The volatile mix may be the
devil's own blend but has been used as an inspirational
tool. Saints and sinners, priests, poets and politicians
have imbibed. It has destroyed some politicians and made
others better. Some say that Winston Churchill was rarely
sober. It also has made those who have stopped,
stronger.
I've met many who should never
have a drink and a few that didn't but probably should. It
might improve their disposition. They say it's good for your
heart but bad for your liver. Take your choice.
So raise your glass and repeat
after me: "I've drunk to your health in the barroom and I've
drunk to your health at home. I've drunk to your health so
damn much, I've nearly ruined my own." Cheers!
James W. Dolan is a retired
Dorchester District Court judge who now practices
law.
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